Failing as the path to success and self-knowledge
Colleges prefer A-students. So, out of necessity and love, this generation of parents rescue. Our kids don’t get the chance to fail, bounce back and achieve. The tutor is a quick call away. But the teen shouldn’t take a tutor to college, though some do. Having four hours of tutoring per night for that tough course may yield an A but that is not success, it reveals difficulty or failure—identifying the cause is invaluable.
Let’s learn from the ‘failures,’ difficulty or low performance when planning for the future. We are looking at failures here before successes. Failing or low performance reveals volumes. (Check all that apply) Make copies because everyone has more than one subject they are not best at---if they are perfect at everything, as the saying goes, then they are not challenging themselves enough. Here is a worksheet for categorizing 'failures' and struggles. REMEMBER: If a class is really too hard, then take the easier class, master the material and progress to that harder class. This isn't a race! (See The Race article) Take classes that are appropriate or a year-ahead in difficulty. Don't think the student will get ahead by skipping Algebra 1 and going to Algebra 2, or Calculus, etc (and yes, this happens. And some of these students get A's--from the tutor doing the work.)